Failing beautifully! I actually heard this expression the other day for the first time. It peaked my interest… So I started to think about these Two words.
Do we really want to fail? And if we do fail, is there such a thing as failing beautifully?
At first I was a little put off by this thought, I don’t really like the thought process of teaching someone to fail, let alone fail beautifully.
I decided I wanted to spend a little bit more time thinking about this, before I just decided that this was not a good expression.
My dad always used to say to me, there is no such thing as a mistake/failure as long as you learn from it… When you learn from it, it becomes a life lesson!
It becomes something that you can keep with you for the rest of your life, to not only avoid doing that same mistake again… But to help teach others.
As I thought about that, I thought… no…. I kind of understand failing beautifully a little bit better.
I started to think about this …..do we push success at all costs, rather than it’s Okay to fail?
We all fail at something… Not everyone can succeed at the first try .. second try etc…at whatever they do… and maybe sometimes failing at something… brings us to another avenue in life that we would’ve never thought of had we not failed. The more I thought about this, the more I thought about my journey of turning autism Into…awesomism
It also started bringing up some other thoughts, about how we can feel beautifully… Many of us the first time we rode a bike or tried to ride a bike I should say, we didn’t stay upright… We would fall to the side, jump off or fall and scrape your knee… We failed the first few times we tried to ride a bike.
Did we fail beautifully?… Maybe we did… Because it was the determination to get back up on that bike, and try again!
We tell ourselves we’re not gonna let things take us down… We’re not gonna fail… We’re going to pick ourselves back up, and we’re going to succeed.
I have felt this way being a full-time autism activist, I’ve had so many people being negative around me, or say things like other people are doing that, so you don’t need to or Peyton is already an adult, you don’t have to worry about it anymore… Which is the silliest comment I get… And then sometimes I feel like I am failing because I don’t feel like I’m making a difference!
I see so many people on social media just begging for attention… Making up stories about all these amazing things they are doing… But when you really dig into them, you find out they’re not even real.
I tend to be so self critical… And feel like I’m never doing enough to help autistic adults. In some ways this is a really bad trait, in another way such a great trait… Because it forces me to do more and more.
I’ve really come to realize, that I don’t need to talk about what I’m going to do on social media, because it doesn’t make a bit of a difference! it’s not about the talking, it’s about the doing.
So to others I may be failing because they don’t realize everything I’m doing…or because I don’t do things their way… that means I am not doing anything…
To me I am failing beautifully, because I am helping so many different people, and that’s really in the end all that really matters. It isn’t about what others think, it is about helping others….
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Lynne aka AwesomismMom