Storms come into our lives… As I’m sitting here listening to tropical storm Nicholas pound it’s heavy rain and wind outside… I am reminded about the storms that we all live through. Life isn’t always full of positivity and happiness… Some go through more storms than others.
I have a friend who is in a really bad situation right now… Me and several of his other friends, are really trying to help him… It seems like everything we’re trying isn’t working… But we’re not giving up. They always say that how you react to negative situations truly affects the outcome. I believe this, but at the same time It isn’t always easy to keep a positive attitude when you’re going through a lot of negativity.
Some people… As I said, seem to go through tougher times another people… We all have our crosses to bear so to speak. The part that sometimes really gets to me though, I have to admit is, when people who haven’t gone through truly tough situations, and are very judgemental of people who have.
Coming through abuse in a marriage, it’s not an easy thing. Nothing bothered me more than having people who did not live in that situation, tell me what it was like. When you’re in the middle of a very difficult situation, the very last thing you need is other people judging you or pretending that they have the moral high ground over you.
Sympathetic and empathetic shoulder is way better. However; too many people use that particular time when someone is down, to kick them even harder. You have to wonder What makes someone want to be like that… But rather than focus on the negative, and why people choose to be like that… let’s focus on how to get through storms easier.
What is your method of coping? Do you have friends or family that you confide in and can go to and lean on no matter how stressful and negative the situation is? Are you one of those people who more internalizes it and tries to work it out yourself? Do you try to work through the negative situation by keeping busy… Keeping your mind off of what is going on, and just letting things happen as they happen? Are you one of those who try to control the situation and it becomes consuming?
These are just a few of the coping mechanisms that many of us use… I’m not a therapist nor do I even try to pretend to be a therapist… I just have dealt with a lot in my life, and I have had friends that have dealt with a lot, and these are some of the things that I have seen through the years.
Why am I writing a blog on this? Because I know for myself I always find it “therapeutic“ to know that I’m not the only one going through these type of situations. This is not to say that I’m glad that other people are going through negativity, it’s more a fact of it doesn’t feel make me feel as isolated…
I find this to be true by having friends that have autistic children as well… They understand some of the things I’m going through, way better than those who do not live with that every day. If you have a friend or family member that is going through a particularly tough time right now, please try to be there for them… I know my friend thanks me and my other friends every day for being there for him…
Life is tough enough but it is even tougher when we feel alone!
Here is a blog I wrote before about a friend of mine who passed away… she was the definition of a true friend.. also, check out Big Lloyd’s blog
Let’s all strive to be that friend to someone!
As always Thanks for reading and have an awesome day!
Lynne aka AwesomismMom